How to speak with Girls on phone for Marriage

Hello All,

Rather than wasting time in introduction, I’ll straight away come to the point. If you are talking first time to girl on phone for marriage, after your call, you should be done with your 60%-70% decision either ways, YES or NO.

First schedule a call well in advance may be a day before and if it’s on mobile, send a SMS. Generally it is the guy’s responsibility to manage the logistics. Be in a good and comfortable position. Find a nice place to seat; the best one is your bedroom. Try avoiding open and public places and be alone at the time of the call. Make sure no one disturbs you during the call. If possible, use hands free on your mobile. This will make your movement free, clear voice and most important you can move your mobile where you have maximum Network coverage.

The most difficult thing is to start the conversation. First thing, you should ask her if she is comfortable talking now. I know after scheduling a call, she has to be ready, but good one to start with. Give a reference, eg; “there were conversation among our family and I thought its better we talk first before going ahead”. When you talk to her, don’t show any attitude; be as simple as you can. Speak in the most comfortable language; it’s not your job interview to only speak in English. Depending on the location, you can either use ‘Aap’ or ‘Tum’ in hindi, never use ‘Tuu’ at fist call.

Never rush to questions like “tell me something about yourself” or “What are your expectations”, these are for later part. May be if she is working then you can ask her about her office timings, weekends etc. may be you can ask her about nature of her job, her usual pastime and hobbies. The intention of this call should be to judge how comfortable you are with that girl and not to know each and every detail of that girl. You will get plenty of time to know that detail (I know even after spending whole life it’s difficult to understand them). Don’t get too excited or too nervous, difficult to achieve that, but try practicing this in front of your boss.

The most obvious question that guys want to ask is if she knows cooking, yes you have every right to ask that. In current scenario not many girls are that confident in cooking because they hardly do any before marriage. If you want to still know the answer try to be more humorous “ahh I forgot to ask you the most typical question, do you know cooking?”

The most important thing about your conversation should be humor. Crack few PJ’s (Not the ant and Elephant ones). Be more energetic in your conversation. Girls like to listen to PJ’s, they might mostly deny that, but that’s the fact. You can even flirt a bit in later part to create more fun, but not too much.

Never use vulgar, rude or offensive language. Be careful not to offend her relatives or her parents. You can ask about her family just to continue conversation. I know most of the guys are least bothered about her family, but good to continue.

Now the lies that you need to tell, at least for the first call. She might ask if you smoke, drink or have any girlfriends. If you are occasional smoker or drinker, never tell the truth. You can always (have to) tell her about this in 2-3 meeting. This is my personal suggestion that many girls take occasional as always and the guy’s definition might be actually only on special occasion. I suggest lying here because this might go against you if the relation doesn’t go through and she might tell this to her parents and in turn to your parents. In our society, still parents don’t know if their son drinks or smoke even after getting lighters and matchsticks time and again from his pocket, they simply ignore it.

Try not to go beyond 60 mins for first call; you can have a next one later. Try to conclude with some concrete next step, may be “you discuss among your family and I’ll discuss among my family”. Never commit on anything on your first call. Speaking to her on phone and meeting her personally is quite different.

To conclude, my suggestion is not to try avoid marriage issue if it goes beyond your control. Once you know that you have to get married soon, leave no stone unturned in getting a right match for you. Try to enjoy this phase and not get depressed. Remember Bus, Train and Girl…..one goes another comes…….

Its real fun and you will cherish it for ever……

Have a happy soul mate searching…..