Am I ready for marriage?

Am I ready for marriage?

This is most debatable topic and debate is just not among peoples, but within you. It is most difficult to say when you are ready for marriage. There is no good time to get married and there is no reason why you should not get married. The decision should not only come from within you, but also depends on other factors like family and society. Getting married is just not adding one more person to your and family’s life, things are more than that.

People often say that they are not yet ready to take the responsibility. Is it really true? I would say that you will never be ready. The most common reason, especially from guys that I have come across is that they are financially not ready to take on the responsibility. Let me tell you, if you think so then you will never be ready in life. Human nature at most times is greedy, you will always want to earn more and more, you will never feel satisfied. Keep a realistic target in mind which should be sufficient for you to live a decent and not luxurious life. Think of people who stay on the street, yet they get married and are happy. I am not telling to be like them, but the point is that money is not the most important factor.

The most important factor for me is are you ready to take on the responsibility of your to be family. You are alone now and later you will need to look after and take care of your partner. This is applicable to both guys and girls. The very factor that you need to share everything of yours with your partner, including your bedroom and your bed makes this discussion more difficult.

Think realistically if you get married after 1 or 2 years down the line, what is the difference going to be. It its more or less same, then it’s the right time now. May be a pen and a piece of paper would help. Think of the things that you are planning to do in next 1-2 years and write it down. Just knock-off the things which are not related with your marriage, whatever left is what you need to think for.

Mostly in our society, we find lot of pressure from family and friends to get married soon. The question that you need to ask yourself is if I need to get married sometime in my life then why not now. At least you will have a good friend to share your happiness and sorrows. You will find a good shoulder to cry on (for both guys and girls).

You cannot take such important decision very quickly. You will need some time; at first it might look like a conspiracy by your family to keep you caged. If guys you are thinking that your family might not accept any new member in your family, then its all rubbish. You will need to take a chance and give them some time to accept her.

Once get married, then there’s no backing up. This is just one way path with no return. Couples often say that their marriage didn’t work out well because they got married too early in their life, a pure nonsense. If you have the right to vote at that age, if you can decide on your countries future, you definitely have enough sense to decide on your own future. The main reason behind their marriage failure is because they didn’t waited for right partner. This is all together a separate discussion topic.

You can write pages and pages on this never ending topic. I would just say that it’s your life, decide it on your own. However take your families wish into consideration. They have given their whole life for you (at least in my case and most of you too, if not you will realize this sometime in your life). Take their valuable advice; they have seen more life than what we have seen. It’s never a harm to take someone’s advice, especially when it’s free and from our own people.

Think wisely and take a right decision. There is every chance that you will get more time to cherish your life the sooner you take positive decision.