Budget Planning for Marriages:

Budget Planning for Marriages:

Budget Planning for Marriages or wedding or Indian Shaadi is the most interesting part with preparation of checklist, planning and calculations. However this could also be tricky part and at times can be unpleasant which you have to first after wedding confirmation. You need to decide how much you can spend on the wedding. It is most important to decide how much you can spend in wedding and both parties should agree upon that. Also, it should be finalized that who will spend how much and for what all things. There are many ways to save on money in wedding, look out for them.

Below is the sample list for budget. Put it down as minimum and maximum cost.



Engagement Function

Accommodation for Outstation Guest

Jewelry

Outfit for Bride/Groom

Wedding and Reception Venue

Food for guest before wedding

Food on the day of wedding

Flowers

Decorations

Transportation for Guest

Stationary like Invitation cards, postage etc

DJ, Music Band, Horse/Car for Barat etc

Photos and Videos

Panditji/Preist, Pooja materials etc

Other
 

Checklist for Marriages

Wedding is the most important function in anybody’s life and especially in India it gets even bigger. At times, it becomes difficult to manage things and many of them panic at the start. If you are looking for some memorable wedding, you should plan the things well in advance. Hope below tips will help you.

 

We have divided the task as per the time:

Things need to be done just after marriage is fixed:

Things need to be done 2 months in advance

Things need to be done 1 Month in advance

Things need to be done 1 Week in advance

Things need to be done 1 day in advance

 

Things need to be done just after marriage is fixed: The real planning start at this stage and the scale of the wedding is decided.

Decide the Budget of your wedding

Decide number of guest

Decide the number of functions and locations.

Decide a Theme for your wedding if you wish so.

Divide the responsibilities to both sides.

Book the marriage venue and decide the caterer.

 

Things need to be done 2 months in advance:

Book a photographer and video man.

Book an accommodation for guests coming from outside.

Do reservation of tickets for outstation travel.

Decide on the decoration requirements like flowers, lighting, statues, etc.

Make arrangements for music for Sangeet/Barat.

Book a horse/car for Barat.

Start purchasing your Jewelry, accessories, wedding and reception outfits, etc.

Book a Panditji.

Get your Invitation card ready.

Finalize your honeymoon plans.

Keep your passport ready.

Finalize the menu and drinks.

 

Things needs to be done 1 Month in advance:

Start distributing Invitation cards. This might take a while, so good to start early but not too early.

Make sure your outfits and Jewelry are ready.

Make sure you have purchased enough clothes for all the functions; keep 3-4 extra pairs.

Make sure you have the Visa and all the documents including cash/Travelers cheque ready if you are going abroad for honeymoon.

You can also book a luxury hotel room for your first wedding night.

Visit a good dietician; this will help you look smart on the D day.

Confirm the approximate number of guest.

Do the shopping for return gift to guests.

 

Things need to be done 1 Week in advance:

Confirm all your bookings with venue, caterer, horse/car, accommodation for guest, photographer, Panditji, etc.

Visit all of them personally or assign task to each member of your family.

Do a dress rehearsal for all the outfits, jewelry, accessories.

Pack your honeymoon suitcase and keep it ready, you will never get time later.

Confirm all your honeymoon bookings.

Prepare separate suitcase for each function. Also your belongings should be kept separate from your immediate family members belongings. Prepare a separate suitcase for them as well.

Make sure your partner have packed his/her bags as well.

Visit your beautician and hair dresser .

Keep few basic medicines like antacid, painkillers ready.

 

Things need to be done 1 day in advance:

Don’t get panic, things will never be perfect and there will be always some task still pending.

Make sure all the decoration is happing as per plan, drinks and food have arrived, car is cleaned, etc.

Call your beautician and hair dresser at the wedding venue and get some touch-up done.

Go to sleep early.

Just relax and enjoy the occasion.

How to start on marriage

Dear All,

The very first thing that you need to do is make up your mind that you want to get married and the time frame that you are looking. Ideally the earlier you start the better, but always have at least few months with you. At times you might need to convince your family as well for your marriage. Also be ready with the answers for questions that might come back on you from your family and friends.

Once you are set and done with all the emotional and mental aspect, let’s start on the actual preparation. Here we will look only at the arranged marriages.

The first thing that you will need is Bio-data and couple of recent solo photos. The next thing is to start on the actual search. Here the procedure might change from person to person. One of the option is to let some of the relatives know that you are looking get married. This might sound a bit awkward; however there are ways to convey your message. Some of your aunties may be good source, you just need to give them a hint and they will organize the rest.

The other option is to get registered to some matrimonial website or in some Marriage bureau. These matrimonial websites are mostly free to register and then if you find any suitable match, you need to become a paid member and you can contact them. Marriage bureau works a bit differently where you need to pay first and they will provide you with the profiles, however this is more personalized service so some people prefer it.

The first thing you will be asked while registration is your profile, so be ready with the one. This is different from your Bio-data as it is more descriptive. There are few other options as well like giving advertisement in news paper, though this should be consider later on.

It is just not enough to get a decent photo or create a good profile; you will need some personal grooming as well. First go to a good parlor and get a decent hair cut and some facial grooming. This applies to both guys and girls. The second thing you will need is nice pair of cloths, required when you have personal meetings. These all things might sound rubbish at times, but remember that this is the most important time when you need to look good.

Next be ready with the answers of some common questions that might be asked during your meetings. Always speak what your heart says, but you can definitely work on the way you speak.
There are few other things that you need to take care like changes in your house interiors, etc. but we can’t discuss all the things. So enjoy the search and all the best

Some Marriage Jokes # 2

Did you know why one's native language is called ‘mother tongue’?
'Because father hardly gets opportunity to speak’


After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.

Some Marriage Jokes # 1

In marriage, as in war, it is permitted to take every advantage of the enemy.

If your wife laughs at your joke, it means you either have a good joke, or a good wife.

My wife and I have a secret to making a marriage last.Twice a week we go to a nice restaurant, a little wine, good food....She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays.

She: I don't think I'd marry the best man on earth.
He: If you marry me you wouldn't be taking that risk.

I haven't spoken to my wife in 18 months. I don't like to interrupt her.

It doesn't matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends up with the same boss.

Why I should get married

This should have been the very first article of my blogs, but better late than never. Most of the parents are asked (rather bombarded) with this question whenever they speak to their kids on marriage. This especially happens with guys in their 20’s and parents feel that this is the right age for them to get married (don’t know why they call it as “time to get settle”).

The answer is very simple, rather a reverse question that what is harm in getting married. I agree there are more responsibility to carry and then only me factor is gone. But think realistically, do you want to really stay alone for your whole life, not many people can. At some stage of your life you need someone to share your sorrows and happiness. You need someone who can listen to your idea and thoughts.

Forget about the S** factor, that is very obvious, do you think you can stay without people around you. Parents are there, but for how much time. There will be always few things that you cannot share with your parents and family, after all a big generation gap is there.

Some people are ready to have live in relationship. I personally feel that is specialized form of marriages. You do all the things that you do in Marriages, except for making it legal. People often say that way they are free to leave their partner whenever they feel so, but how can you start a relationship with such a negative feeling.

The very first reason is your parents and society wish. It’s your duty to give something back to your parents who have given their whole life for you. If there is an institution for marriages and they exist for thousands of years, there must be something good in that.

In many western countries, people don’t marry during younger days in the name of freedom. If you look at matrimonial ads in newspapers in those countries, pages are full of older people wanting to get married. You need someone to support you and be with you during your older days. However, it’s difficult to find a right partner that time.

If you think positively by marrying you get a good friend for life, with whom you can have fun all the time. Obviously there will be someone to question you, but there will also be someone who can correct you if you are going wrong somewhere.

Think wisely and make a right decision and hopefully positive. You always need a good friend in your life and why it can’t be your husband or wife. Give it chance and 99% it will work. If doesn’t work, unlike others at least you tried and gave your 100%.

Examples of Marriage Profile for Guys

Examples of Marriage Profile for Guys

Below are few examples of writing marriage profile for guys. Make use of these words and make your profile more interesting; you just need to change details accordingly

Example1:

I am honest, caring, intelligent, hardworking, and ambitious. I have a great sense of humor. I am a post-graduate with MBA from one of the premier Indian institute and work as a Project Lead in one of the top Finance company. I am passionate about traveling, watching movies and enjoy great chats.

We are open minded yet respect Indian traditions and would like to have partner who can stand with me throughout my life in my good and bad times. We are looking for smart, intelligent and educated girl.


Example2:

Name: ABC
Place of birth: Delhi, Time of Birth: 10:00 am
Salary: Rs.800000 pa
Place of work: Mumbai
Education: CA
Father: In service
Mother: Housewife
Brother: BE
Sisters: MBA, Married

Intelligent, well cultured, smart, trustworthy and kind hearted.
She should be caring, understanding, and down to earth. If working, should be able to balance professional and personal life

Examples of Marriage Profile for Girls

Below are few examples of writing marriage profile for girls. Hope this will help you to create better profile; you just need to change details accordingly.

Example 1:

Name: ABC
Place of birth: Delhi, Time of Birth: 10:00 am
Salary: Rs.300000
Place of work: Mumbai
Education: BE in CS from Mumbai University
Father: In service
Mother: Housewife
Brother: CA
Sisters: MBA, Married.

Well mannered, simple, caring, understanding, trustworthy and kind hearted. I am fun loving and down to earth.

He should be caring, loving, humorous, understanding and well educated.

Example 2:

I would describe myself as someone who is intelligent, caring and ambitious with great sense of humor. I have done my MBA from Mumbai University and currently working in top MNC as Finance executive in Mumbai.

My father is a businessman and he stressed on being independent in life. My mother is housewife and has worked hard to give us great values. My Brother, though younger to me studying in 12th, is more of a friend to me.

Example of Shaadi or Marriage Bio-Data

Below are the Basic details that you can use, else download sample templates
If you like any of them or require improvments, please leave your comments

Personal Details:
Name:
Date of Birth/Time/Place:
Religion/Caste/Gotra:
Height/Weight:
Complexion:
Educational Background and any Academic achievements:
Nature of work, if Service then organization Name and Achievements if any:
Annual Income (Optional):
Brief Description and hobbies (Optional):

Immediate Family Details:
Father (Name, Qualification, nature of work)
Mother (Name, Qualification, nature of work/Housewife)
Brother’s (Name, Qualification, nature of work)
Sister’s (Name, Qualification, nature of work)

Contact Details:
Email Id:
Address:
Phone Number (Landline/Mobile):

References (Optional):

Closing Note (Optional):





Here are few Sample templates that I have created:



Ganeshji1
Ganjeshji2
JainTemplate1
Heart
Border
Phere
Plain
Ring

How to speak with a guy on phone for Marriage

Dear All,
Here we will discuss on how to speak with a guy on phone for marriage. To start with never say NO to a guy if he wants to speak to you. Probably he is the right person you are looking for because he is ready to communicate and share equal ideas with you. This is missing most of the time especially in somewhat conservative society.
Before the call, be ready with your phone, if you have mobile better to have hands free. If possible go in a separate room where no one will disturb you. The most difficult task for girls is how to start. It is generally guys who calls and should start, however if he doesn’t, you can do that.
Don’t be too shy to speak or else the whole idea of call will be lost. You can start with speaking on general topics by asking his nature of work, work timings, designation etc. May be to ease out more, you can ask his hobbies, favorite pastime, etc.
Never ask for habits like Alcohol, smoking at very first. Let the guy speak on this own, you will have plenty of time to know about this later. Once you are well versed with conversation, you can ask some important question like does he wants working wife or a housewife. At times you cannot ask direct questions and might need to change your sentence a bit. The other important thing you might need to ask is some details about his family.
It is very important to know carrier goals of a guy. People tend to hesitate to speak directly about their salary, so hold on and may be sometime later you can ask this. Let the guy speak most of the truth else if you ask too many questions to him, then in all likely hoods he might give wrong or inconclusive answers.
Most of the times speak truth to answer all his questions. If you give wrong or inconclusive answers now, it might backfire you later. You may write down few generic questions and answers to it on a piece of paper if you find it difficult to decide on the spot.
It is misconception that guys ask irrelevant questions. It might be irrelevant for you, but can be most important to him. Do not hesitate to answer or ask any question as it is a matter of life long relationship for you. If you like to speak to him then continue, but should not go beyond 60 mins, after that better meeting each other personally or another call.
To conclude, don’t be in hurry and take your own time. He is not the last guy in the world, but if you like him go for it. Try to enjoy this phase, you will cherish this for lifelong.

Have a happy soul mate searching…..